The Evolution of My Love Life and Strange New Old Guy Attraction

I started dating men over this summer (2012). I know a bit late right? Well I've been in a 5 year relationship since I was 17. He was the first and only boyfriend I had. Therefore he was the one and only person I dated. And I wouldn't actually consider it dating because we were young and committed to having something more than the little casual outings.

So early this year my boyfriend decided to ask me something that he has been trying to get me to consider for the last 3 years, An Open Relationship! Its the worst because they never really work. But that's another topic. I finally decided to do it after my boyfriend revealed to me that he was indeed flirting and talking to other women. :(. We've never been on a real break and I was afraid he would eventually cheat on me. In addition to that I already had someone in mind to take advantage of this opportunity with.

However, after months of talking about this I did not realize how serious he was about the open relationship only benefiting him and not me. Not fair right? He did not want me to be with anyone else. I wish he had reinforced this because the instant I found out he was taking home girl to the movies, I started texting and flirting with other guys. These guys were either my age or older than me but no older than 26.

But it was a very weird feeling because I was finally talking to all types of men with different perspectives and my guards were really up. I was also a bit jealous of this new relationship my boyfriend had with these supposed "other womEn" (I eventually found out it was just one girl). For me on the other hand I was not talking to just one guy. 

The crux of my story is: Why in the world was I attracting men 30 and up over the summer? Something that was very unusual before my dating experience. This was not the first time i've been approached other guys. Most of my encounters in the past have been younger men or men my age but 2012 was just the year of the older guys. Maybe it was my energy but don't get me wrong I liked it. I love the maturity and the success. I guess my recent success as a college graduate attracted other successful college graduates. But I take that back they all weren't successful, older but not all successful lol.

For example, Saturday night I was out with my friends visiting my college. I met a guy at the bar, an army guy and guess how old he was...31. Like what the hell. What a diversion. It seems like every encounter now. My new encounters this summer has provoked my interest in older men but we will see how far this goes.